What to do in a struggling relationship
August 20th, 2009One of the great things we experience in our lifetimes is the relationships we have.From the wonderful experiences of family relationships to love relationships it is great.But in a few instances what was once good can turn bad. What was once a source of joy and excitement can become hard and painful.
I have seen this first hand helping people in couples counseling San Diego. What was once a promising relationship becomes antagonistic. What was once looking like a bright future now is so bleak. What happened and what can be done to change it?
That is a major question and one that is going to be hard to address.Most relationships that have problems are going to be different. But my experience as a marriage counselor San Diego has shown me there are methods you can use to bring out good solutions.
One of the things that is helpful to them is by giving them a safe place to talk.In general when you try and fix the fighting in your own home for some reason it doesn’t work.By proving a safe environment for them they are able to feel comfortable and safe which allows them work things out easier.
One more thing that will help the couple is by being another ear to listen to them.But not just any ear but one that doesn’t take sides.An ear that is able to hear the issues and talk about them impartially.Accomplishing that can work miracles. That third person can address the issues apart from a heated argument.When a couple is in the heat of the argument and they try to fix it, it usually won’t work.
One more thing that can help the couple is teaching them how to effectively listen to one another. In my practice doing marriage counseling San Diego, I help them develop these skills.These skills are beneficial in helping them listen to one another rather than always attempting to be the winner in an argument.
By implementing this, they are more able to tackle the issues that face them. Doing these few things in a rocky relationship can work wonders. I have seen it first hand as a marriage counselor.
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August 22nd, 2009 at 8:16 am
I have seen this first hand helping people in couples counseling San Diego. What was once a promising relationship becomes antagonistic. What was once looking like a bright future now is so bleak. What happened and what can be done to change it?